You guys! We have our first listener question! So exciting!
Join Cayly and me in this week’s episode as we tackle the following question (submitted to us by a listener who shall remain nameless because I failed to ask her if we could use her name and/or an alias):
Why do we want to change and evolve, and why can’t we just be content with our lives as they are right now?
Good question, anonymous listener!
It’s true that Cayly and I talk all the time on the show about the importance of putting yourself in uncomfortable situations, stepping outside your comfort zone, and doing hard things in order to grow and evolve in your life. But we’ve never actually talked about why growing and evolving are things to aspire to in the first place.
Well, we’re finally going there in this discussion. We talk about how challenging yourself is essential to building confidence, why change is inevitable, and why growth is necessary for staying healthy and engaged in an ever-evolving world.
We hope you enjoy this conversation and find it useful! And many thanks to the lovely listener who submitted this question. Please keep the questions coming. We love hearing from you!
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Highlights from this episode:
- We are evolving all the time anyway and being engaged in our own evolution is good for us
- Are contentment and growth-seeking mutually exclusive?
- Passive vs. active growth — different ways of engaging with this process of evolution and how it can cause some people more angst than others
- We’re all growing and changing, but we label it differently
- How Steven Covey’s 7 Habits of Highly Effective People was life-changing for Tracey when she was in undergrad
- How the path of self-help can go awry
- Do Tracey and I believe in brokenness?
- The ease with which we can avoid discomfort — especially physical discomfort — in our modern world and the negative consequences of being comfortable all the time
- New Seasons Market
- Wim Hof
- What are the benefits of cold exposure?
- My experiment with the cold shower challenge
- Bonus photo of Tracey and Me taking an ice bath together after a crossfit workout at Intrepid Athletics
- Getting Grit: The Evidence-Based Approach to Cultivating Passion, Perseverance, and Purpose by Caroline Adams Miller
- Why it is important to set stretch goals that push you outside your comfort zone
- Why it is important not to rescue your children from discomfort all the time
- The three hard things exercise vs. gratitude practices
- How the gym helps Tracey and me confront discomfort regularly
- Why doing something physically challenging can help you build your discomfort muscle
- When sitting still and being quiet becomes an exercise in discomfort and how I see this play out in my treatment room
- Why boredom is important and the downsides to technology
- Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World by Cal Newport
- The importance of evolving as culture evolves
- Neuroplasticity and how evolving keeps us young
- Dan Siegel, M.D.
- Can there can be contentment in the process of growing itself?
- And more!
This week’s animal spotlight from the Pixie Project:
NICKEL, a 2 year-old Pointer mix weighing in at 50lbs. Nickel is an active, athletic, fast-learning pup, who needs a more rural home around which he can run around. He would do great with another dog in the home, but is not too friendly with kitties. He’s a little shy at first, but warms up quickly and would love to meet you! Please check out Nickel’s profile here and consider taking him back to your sweet, country abode!
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